A few brief thoughts on friendship and growth


“He who walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools suffers harm.”

That is such a good principle, and one I am learning all the time. 

For me it’s not so much about being companions(so to speak) with FOOLS, people who are actually foolish. 

I don’t often encounter “friends” who encourage me to cheat on my wife, or go binge drink, or do drugs, or steal, or any other vice. So, I guess I should put that in the win column already. 

But really, the difference is, are your friends helping you grow? 

We all have people we enjoy connecting with around different interests, and that’s completely fine. But it’s important to note that moderation may not be as important to them as it is to you. 

Maybe I’m really into video games, and I have a friend who is really into video games too. But he’s in college and single, and has the summer break to binge on those awesome games. I don’t. I’m married and have a job and things that are unequivocally more of a priority than video games.

So it is entirely up to me to not let that friendship influence my priorities, even though diving into video game heaven is the main way I connect with him as a friend. 

It’s important, I think, to evaluate your friendships by how much they contain progress, encouragement, and common goals in life. 

It’s difficult to show a long devotion to growth in the right directions without other people around you who are trying to do the same. 

Just my thoughts. What do you think?